Disappointment. I feel like I experienced it a lot of times this year. Maybe, I was hard on myself, or maybe, I just didn't really accomplish what I wanted. But regardless of the reasons, I felt disappointed. What do I do?
1. Firstly, you should consider the reasons behind the failure.
If you didn't accomplish what you wanted, try to understand why. Poor time management? Procrastination? Misunderstanding of material? In my case, I found it was my ADHD...
If you are too hard on yourself, then be careful. Don't get me wrong. High expectations are great, but you shouldn't set them if you are not ready to fail. It's like poker; all or nothing. And some of the times you can control your success or failure, but sometimes it's unfair.
Basically, work on getting a "never give up" mindset.
2. Acknowledge the disappointment
You've probably heard "Every great person has some time failed", or "You learn from your mistakes", but these phrases are not making me feel any better, to be honest. But I know that without the negative feelings, you would never be able to recognize positive ones (success) and fully enjoy it.
3. Deal. But How?
The truth is, every person copes differently. Different people need a different amount of time. The most important thing, like I've already said, is the mindset of yours. If you have already started pursuing something (and really want to continue), then don't stop; otherwise, you are wasting your time even starting on something.
Plus we only live once. We have to take some sort of "risks" in pursuing our dreams.
Finally, nothing is completely set in place. You can improve your skills, change your habits, and become whoever the F you want.
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